Forgiveness

DEFINITION:

a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness.

Our Story

Forgiveness is not saying that what they did is okay

For years my view of forgiveness was warped by the pain of my past and the lies of this world. I believed that forgiving someone gave them the ok for what they did, but it was never about that person; it was about me.

I didn’t even know where to begin when thinking of forgiving my dad.

I blamed him for my messed up childhood and self destructive life. I turned to my husband who had learned to live out true forgiveness in flesh.

While he was in prison, I cheated on him. I was wearing the Scarlet Letter as the adulterous wife. When I shared with my husband what I had done, he responded with..

“I forgive you, I love you, let’s move forward!”

I couldn’t understand how he could forgive me with such grace and remove the red letter stained across my chest. The world doesn't forgive easily when it comes to adultery. During my forgiveness journey, I asked him…

“How did you do that for me?”

He replied,

“ Well just think of all the junk you have been forgiven of and that’s your motivation!”

With my husband as a model of forgiveness and the quiet whisper from Jesus that I ran from for a year, I set out to find my Dad. I knew this was a divine appointment from God as this was something that I would never have done on my own. In a parking lot of a shopping center the words,

“Dad, I forgive you for what you did to us, what you did to me!”

For the first time in my life, I was free

The fear, the anger, the anxieties, and bitterness all disappeared. I realized that the emotional baggage I dragged along my whole life was due to the un-forgiveness that I had been carrying around.

My goal is to help you find the freedom that comes through the simple, yet powerful act of forgiving others.

Undone

a journey of loss, freedom and forgiveness

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When I was eight years old, my dad tried to kill my mom. Dumping her body in the back of his truck, he came back for me and my younger brother. He wanted to finish us, too.

That was my first step down a dark path. Fifteen years of running from one disaster to the next. Drugs. Guys. Dancing in strip clubs. Self harm. Suicide attempts. You name it, I did it.

Even for a survivor, the darkness can be too much to bear.

At the height of the Charlotte rave scene in 1999, I met Trent. It was love at first sight. We lived for the next high, doing drugs and dealing them. We got married and shortly after that, everything fell apart. Trent went to prison for drug trafficking. There, he said he found Jesus, while I started down my darkest path yet.

Undone is the true story of how two broken people found love and redemption in a Father neither ever knew.

It is our story.

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